Ice Breakers – for Pregnant Women

When you meet with your student midwife it can sometimes feel unfamiliar. It can be helpful to have a few icebreakers ready to make the experience more comfortable and open for you both. Here are some tips and ideas for you to help break the ice and create a more positive atmosphere when meeting your student midwife: 

Start with a Compliment or Light-hearted Comment: 

“I’m excited to meet you! I’ve heard student midwives do such an amazing job, I’m looking forward to this.” 
(This sets a positive tone and helps both you and the student midwife feel more at ease). 

“I’m excited to meet you!  

“What inspired you to become a midwife?” 

“Do you enjoy working in maternity so far?”
(These open questions can help you learn more about the student and show that you’re open to chatting). 

“How long have you been studying to become a midwife?” 

“So, how long have you been on placement?” 
(This shows interest in their journey and can spark a conversation about the student’s background and training). 

“I bet you’ve heard some interesting birth stories already!” 

“Have you practiced measuring bumps yet?” 

“Hope you don’t mind my million questions today!” (with a smile) 

Personal Pregnancy Experience: 

“This is my first pregnancy, and I’m learning so much along the way – have you had the chance to work with first-time pregnant women before?” (Adjust for you)
(This lets the student midwife know you’re open to discussing your pregnancy and invites them to share their experiences with other first-time pregnant women.)

“I’m in my second trimester, and it’s been such an interesting ride so far. What about you – what’s been the most surprising thing you’ve learned about pregnancy?” 
(This encourages a conversation that builds rapport while also engaging them in sharing their insights). 

“Pregnancy is the only time in life when you’ll fall in love with someone you haven’t met.”

Kristen Proby

 Ask About Their Role: 

“I’ve always wondered about what student midwives do during appointments. What’s your favourite part of your role so far?”
(This allows them to share what excites them about their work and can help you feel more connected to the midwifery process). 

“What’s one thing you’ve learned in your studies that you think every pregnant woman should know?” 
(This is a great way to start a meaningful conversation and gives you some educational takeaways). 

Pregnancy Related Humour 

“I’ve started to have some crazy pregnancy cravings lately – do you have any funny stories from your experiences with other pregnant women?” 
(A little humour can lighten the mood and encourage both of you to share funny or relatable experiences). 

Discussing Baby Prep: 

“Have you had any fun baby shopping experiences? I’m trying to figure out what to buy for the baby, but it feels like a whole new world!” 
(Talking about baby preparation is a common topic for most pregnant women, and it helps shift the focus away from any clinical aspects). 

“Do you have any advice on preparing for birth? I’ve been reading a lot about different birth plans, and I’m curious if you’ve learned anything that stands out.” 
(This brings the conversation to something educational while also allowing the student midwife to share what they’ve learned). 

Empathy for the Student Midwife’s Learning Journey: 

“I know you’re still learning – what’s something that surprised you about being a student midwife so far?” 
(Showing empathy for their role can help them feel more comfortable and encourage them to share their thoughts openly). 

“It must be exciting (and a bit nerve-wracking) to work with pregnant women. How do you manage those nerves when you’re in the room with someone like me?” 
(This invites them to share their perspective and creates a sense of mutual understanding). 

Discuss Birth Preferences and Plans: 

“I’ve been thinking a lot about my birth plan. Do you work with pregnant women to help them come up with a birth plan, or is that something I should talk to a midwife or doctor about?” 
(This opens up the topic of birth preferences and makes the student midwife feel like part of your support team). 

“What kind of birth plans have you seen so far? I’m curious if there’s any advice that’s universally helpful for women planning their births.” 
(It’s a way to engage with their learning and get helpful tips about the birth process). 

Casual Questions about Self-Care: 

“I’ve been trying to stay active during my pregnancy – do you have any recommendations for things to do or avoid in my trimester?” 
(This can start a discussion about healthy habits, and the student midwife might share what they’ve learned about self-care during pregnancy.) 

“What’s something you wish every pregnant woman knew about taking care of themselves during pregnancy?” 
(This invites them to share valuable advice, and it shows you’re open to learning). 

Ask About Their Experience with Other Pregnant Women: 

“What’s one thing that you’ve noticed about the way different women experience pregnancy?” 
(This question opens the door for the student midwife to reflect on their experiences and provides an opportunity for shared insights). 

“Are there any common things you’ve learned about mums-to-be that might surprise me?” 
(This can spark a conversation about pregnancy realities and may offer some helpful tips). 

End with a Warm, Positive Note: 

“I’m so glad you’re here to help today. I’m excited to get to know you more as we go through this journey together!” 
(A positive statement can help both you and the student midwife feel more comfortable and set a collaborative tone). 

Tips to Keep It Comfortable 

Body Language: Smile, make eye contact, and speak openly – your warmth can help them feel more confident too. 

Be Open: Student midwives are still learning, and they often appreciate an open, welcoming attitude. Engaging in light conversation can help ease any nerves they might have about working with you. Feel free to share what matters most to you in your care – it helps students learn how to provide personalised support. 

Ask Questions: As a pregnant woman, it’s totally okay to ask questions about the student midwife’s role, how they’re learning, or any tips they might have. It shows you’re engaged and interested in the experience. 

If you’re unsure about anything, ask!! Good Communication is a two-way street. 

Be Empathetic: Recognise that the student midwife is still building their skills and knowledge. Offering kindness and understanding can help create a comfortable, positive atmosphere. 

These icebreakers can help create a more relaxed and engaging conversation between you and the student midwife, fostering a supportive environment where you both feel comfortable and can learn from each other. 

Student midwives are excited to support you, learn from you, and be part of your journey – your kindness, honesty, and feedback are a valuable part of their training.